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Unlocking the Mystery: The Intricate Dance of Chronic Illness and Emotionally Immature Parents
Growing up with a parent who is emotionally immature and frequently sick can be challenging. You might have noticed how they conveniently fall ill during times of conflict or when you need them the most, leaving you feeling frustrated and let down. Understanding why a caregiver constantly succumbs to illness can be a complex process.…
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The Struggle for Self-Validation: Why is it so hard for me to accept validation?
Validation is simply affirming someone’s feelings, thoughts, beliefs and experiences, and holds a profound psychological impact. Even when many of us long to receive this, we find ourselves rejecting it. Why is this? For some of us, this may look like a reflexive response to compare ourselves to someone else, to downplay our experience, to…
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Why am I stuck in resentment? The dual connection of resentment & neglect
Aug 8 , 2022 Written By Erica Lima Resentment is hard to name, it can feel very shameful to carry it in our bodies. Somewhere along the way, we believe that we are the issue or cause of holding resentment. Resentment is an anger, or indignation around being treated unfairly, or in the absence of care. Yet…
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Why am I trying to please my therapist? Understanding the fawn/appease response in therapy.
Mar 11, 2022 Written By Erica Lima People pleasing tendencies are when we have a reflex to default to other’s opinions or perceptions of us, suppress our true thoughts/ feelings, and to be submissive or compliant. These tendencies are usually a trauma response to childhood’s where we HAD to take on a submissive (fawn) response to…
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How can I have better boundaries? Bold boundaries that give your voice back.
#boundaries #people pleasing Mar 11, 2022 Written By Erica Lima Boundaries are essentially where one thing ends, and another begins. So when you think about a relationship without a boundary, it lacks individuality, autonomy, and freedom to make their own choices. When a family or relationship lacks boundaries there is enmeshment. Enmeshment can also lead to…
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Why am I so sensitive? 7 ways to unlock meaningful connection within yourself
Taking things personally can feel debilitating, overwhelming and also can bring in a sense of shame as we may feel powerless to it. Although it often gets labeled by society as problematic or a personality pitfall, it can actually be a hidden superpower to be able to access a deep rich empathy and emotional awareness…
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5 ways to support yourself during a trauma anniversary
Are you experiencing the impact of a trauma anniversary? What are trauma anniversaries?Trauma anniversaries can be an event or loss that disrupts sense of connection, safety, love, and trust toa yourself or a loved one. This can look like death of a loved one, sickness, loss of job, divorce, break-up,moving to a new place, etc.…
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